Understanding Self Talk
Consider what you’ve said to yourself today for a moment. Is it crucial? Was it supportive and kind? How did you feel after you had this internal debate? Your emotions and mood come from your thoughts. Conversations with yourself will either be harmful or helpful. They have an impact on how you feel about yourself and how you respond to life events.
What is Self-Talk?
Self-talk is what you do all the time while you’re awake. Good self-talk is being more widely recognised as an effective method for boosting self-esteem and reducing negative feelings. Strong self-talk masters are believed to be more self-assured, inspired, and creative.
How does Self Talk Work?
While some people are born with the ability to think positively and dismiss negative thoughts, the majority of people must learn how to nurture positive thoughts and dismiss negative ones. It will become more likely to consider positive thoughts rather than negative ones with practise.
How to get Started?
Listen and Learn
Spend a few days paying attention to the inner monologues. Do you believe in yourself? Are you a pessimist or a pessimist? Will you feel comfortable telling a loved one such thoughts and words? Are there any recurring patterns or threads? Make a list of any unpleasant feelings that come to mind often.
Think and Through
To any of the ideas you’ve mentioned, ask yourself the following questions:
Is it possible that I’m overreacting? Is it really that important? Is it important in the long term?
Is it possible that I’m generalising too much? Is it possible that I’m reaching a decision based on personal belief or knowledge rather than facts?
Is it okay if I read your mind? Am I making assumptions about other people’s views or feelings? Is it possible that I’m guessing how they’ll react?
Am I being too hard on myself? Can you use words like “stupid,” “hopeless,” or “fat” to describe yourself?
Is this a case of all-or-nothing thinking? Is it possible that I’m judging one event as good or bad without considering that life is rarely black and white? The solution is normally somewhere in the middle of the two.
It’s time to shift gears and learn a new way to self-talk so that you have a greater understanding of how your inner feelings are twisted. Rephrase the thoughts on the list in a kinder, more optimistic tone.
You can only Win
It’s time to shift gears to develop a different way to self-talk now that you’ve a clearer understanding of how your inner feelings are twisted. Rephrase the list’s reflections in a kinder, more optimistic manner.