Adult partnerships are one of the most difficult aspects of life to navigate. Although it seems not everyone is happily married to their fourth-grade best friend, some have had to part ways with their former confidantes over time. It isn’t always convenient, but it is often important. The actual process of breaking up with a mate can be challenging. Nothing, though, is more difficult than deciding whether or not a relationship is worth saving. When you realise, you’re in a toxic relationship, you have to ask yourself, “Are you in a toxic friendship?”
Let’s figure it out!
It’s difficult to tell if you’re in a one-sided relationship. This is what you would do. Ask yourself the following questions and notice how you react when you answer them. When you read the circumstances below, what is the first example that comes to mind? Now, be frank with yourself – this is a private conversation between you and your computer browser.
- When other people are there, does your friend treat you differently?
- Do you alternate whether you have the opportunity to vent or share what’s going on in your life?
- Is it true that they hide your secrets?
- When you’re around them, do they make you feel uneasy, anxious, or scared?
- Can you feel free to be yourself in their presence?
- Do they assist you in achieving your objectives?
- Do they make you feel tricked or guilt-tripped?
- Do you feel relaxed or tired after spending time with them?
- Are they in a rivalry with you?
- Do they make you feel like you’re being left out?
- Do you believe they ultimately want the best for you?
Is your Friendship Worth Saving?
If you’ve agreed that your relationship is worth saving, here are few suggestions for reducing stress and moving on.
- Write an apology letter, take full responsibility for your role in your friendship’s demise.
- Make it clear that you want to sort it out, but that you understand if they don’t.
- Make your relationship a priority. It’s not a bad thing if you have to call to check up with your buddy on a regular or weekly basis. Make an effort to be there for them.